Even the most doting New Jersey parents who want the best for their children can become somewhat distracted during and after a divorce. The need to focus on serious decisions ranging from child custody and support to property division matters and more can take a lot of energy. It can even put parents into an autopilot mode when actually parenting and this can make people more likely to do things that inadvertently upset their children in the process.
Fortunately, with a bit of consciousness on the matter, there are some relatively simple ways to combat some of the the effects that children may experience during a parental divorce. Some of these things actually involve taking one’s own advice. Most parents have at some time told their children to only say positive things about others and to even keep quiet if they have nothing positive to say. When it comes to speaking about one’s former spouse, parents can benefit—and help their children benefit—from doing this same thing.
Anything that facilitates children loving both parents without any feelings of guilt is also important. Active involvement of both parents in kids’ lives is one means to this. Not fighting or displaying negativity in front of kids is yet another way of helping kids feel positively toward both parents individually and even together.
Working with an attorney during a divorce may be a good way for parents in New Jersey to get the help they need with legal matters. Having this assistance can free parents up emotionally to remain focused on their kids’ needs as well.